Staying Open to God Leads to Unexpected Blessings

• This final lesson from my 2025 journey centers on something God has been whispering to me all year: stay open. When plans shift, when uncertainty rises, when the future feels unclear, remaining open to God’s direction can lead to blessings you never expected. I hope this reflection encourages you today.

If 2025 has taught me anything, it’s this: you don’t always have to know the plan in order to walk in God’s purpose.
This year was filled with twists I didn’t expect, transitions I didn’t plan, and blessings I never saw coming. And through all of it, God kept inviting me into one simple posture: Stay open.

Open to His timing.
Open to His redirection.
Open to His surprises.
Open to the future He is planning for me and my family.

Letting Go of the Illusion of Control

There were moments this year when I wanted answers and wanted them right now.
I wanted clarity. Certainty. Security.
But what God gave me instead was an invitation to trust Him even when the path wasn’t clear.
It wasn’t easy.
But it was freeing. 
In the midst of uncertainty: career shifts, family challenges, and unexpected transitions, God kept showing me that the future He writes is always better than the one I try to script for myself.

Blessings I Never Saw Coming

When I look back, several blessings stand out… blessings I never would have predicted:

• Opportunities to minister and serve in ways I didn’t anticipate

• New professional and personal connections that expanded my vision

• A deeper marriage formed through leading groups and navigating challenges together

• A sense of alignment with God’s calling that grew stronger as the year unfolded

None of these blessings came because I had everything figured out, actually quite the opposite.
They came because I kept my hands open.

The Power of an Open Heart

When you stay open to God’s direction, you begin to see possibilities you never noticed before.
You respond to opportunities with courage rather than fear.
You embrace change instead of resisting it.
You allow God to lead rather than trying to force your own path.
This year reminded me that God doesn’t need my full understanding but my full surrender.

The Lesson

Lesson 4 is this: Staying open to God’s future positions you for blessings you didn’t even know to pray for.
This year strengthened my trust, deepened my faith, and reminded me that God is always ahead of me by preparing opportunities, relationships, and breakthroughs that are already on the way.
And so, as I close out 2025, I do so with gratitude, hope, and open hands.

• Thank you for following along with these four life lessons from 2025. If you’ve found these reflections meaningful and want to cultivate growth, clarity, and spiritual leadership within your ministry or organization, I’d love to connect through SK Consulting. I offer leadership training, team development, and faith-based workshops designed to help churches and organizations navigate change with confidence. Feel free to reach out anytime. Here’s to a purposeful and faith-filled new year!

Community Is One of God’s Greatest Gifts

• As I continue sharing the four major lessons I learned this year, this week’s lesson focuses on something that shaped my life in unexpected ways in 2025: community and a reminder of how powerfully God uses people, relationships, and community to strengthen us. Through friendships, family, ministry, and relationships old and new, God reminded me that we were never meant to walk through life alone. Here is Lesson 3.

Lesson 3: The Gift of Community and the Strength Found in Others

If there’s one thing 2025 reminded me of over and over again, it’s this: we were never meant to do life alone.
This year stretched me in ways I didn’t anticipate: professionally, emotionally, and spiritually. We faced difficult health news in our family. I wrestled with uncertainty about my purpose. And for a moment, it felt like everything was happening all at once.

But in that same season, God surrounded me with people who held me up, encouraged me, prayed for me, and reminded me that the weight of life doesn’t have to be carried alone.

A Year Surrounded by People Who Matter

This year, God strengthened my community in three powerful ways:

1. My Marriage Grew Even Stronger

This year my wife and I celebrated 13 years of marriage, and it hit me how much she has been my anchor through every high and low.
From job loss to job transition… From family health challenges to moments of joy… She walked beside me.

We co-led two marriage small groups and a young adult small group in the summer. Those experiences deepened our relationship, not just with each other, but with the couples and young adults we served.

2. God Reconnected Old Relationships

Some friendships from my past resurfaced this year in meaningful ways. I was able to reconnect with former students who are leading at a high level in their fields.
Old friends reached out.
Conversations were restored.
Care and support returned when I least expected it.

I also took time to look back through old photo albums and reread words of encouragement from former students and colleagues in San Diego. It was a powerful reminder of how intentionally God placed certain people in my life, and how, in every season, what matters most are the relationships we build.

These weren’t random reconnections; they were reminders that God weaves people back into your life right when you need them.

3. Extended Family Became Another Source of Strength

This year, my brother and his family moved just a couple of hours away. Having family close again has been one of the greatest blessings of 2025. After living in this country for 25 years, I realized that I have only spent maybe two of those years living anywhere near my parents and siblings. Distance has been a familiar part of my story, so even a two-hour drive felt significant.

Their move brought back a sense of familiarity and steadiness I didn’t realize I had been missing. It restored moments of shared meals, spontaneous visits, and the quiet comfort of knowing family is within reach. More than anything, it reminded me of the kind of support, togetherness, and presence that family can offer—and how deeply those connections root us, especially as we step into new seasons of life.

Community Is a Form of God’s Provision

At times I prayed for strength, and God sent people.
At times I prayed for clarity, and God sent conversations.
At times I prayed for peace, and God sent support.
At times I prayed for help, and God sent community.

Community doesn’t remove every challenge, but it reshapes the experience of walking through it.

The Lesson: God often answers prayers through people.

This year reminded me that community is not a bonus, rather it’s a blessing.
It’s not optional but extremely essential.
And when you walk with the right people, storms feel lighter and victories feel sweeter.

• Thank you for reading this week’s lesson. If this message speaks to you and you’d like support in strengthening your ministry team, small groups, or organizational culture, I’d love to serve you through SK Consulting. I offer leadership development, team-building workshops, and training sessions designed to build healthier, more connected communities. Feel free to reach out anytime. Lesson 4 is coming next week!

God’s Provision Comes in Unexpected Forms

• As I continue sharing the four major life lessons I learned in 2025, this week’s reflection focuses on how God provides—often in ways far different from what we imagine. I pray this lesson encourages you to notice the unexpected blessings around you. Here is Lesson 2.

Lesson 2: When God Provides in Ways You Weren’t Expecting

If Lesson 1 taught me about God’s redirection, Lesson 2 taught me about God’s provision and how different it often looks from what we expect. When I lost my job early in 2025 and unemployment denied my claim, I assumed provision would come in one form: a new job quickly, a clear financial path, and a smooth next step. But God had something different in mind.

Provision Isn’t Always About Money

This year, God provided for me, my marriage, and my family in ways that didn’t always show up on a paycheck:

• I received a full-time job at my church, something I never anticipated but now deeply appreciate.

• My wife was promoted, giving our household more stability.

• My brother and his family moved to the same state, giving me community and family support I didn’t even know I needed.

• I reconnected with old friends, who brought laughter, wisdom, and strength.

• I built new professional connections with people in my field, opening doors I didn’t seek out.

None of those blessings came wrapped the way I imagined… but they came right on time.

God’s Provision Is Multi-Dimensional

Sometimes God provides:

• People instead of plans

• Support instead of solutions

• Opportunity instead of income

• Peace instead of predictability

Provision isn’t always financial. Sometimes it’s relational, emotional, spiritual, or structural.

Closed Doors Make Room for Better Ones

Losing the job I thought I needed made space for the job God knew I needed.

The denied unemployment pushed me to rely on Him instead of the system.

And the uncertainty created room for unexpected relationships and opportunities to flourish.

The Lesson: God’s provision doesn’t always look like the thing you prayed for.

Sometimes it looks like the thing you didn’t know you needed.

This year taught me to stop limiting God to one method of blessing. He can use jobs, people, moments, conversations, and even disappointment to provide exactly what you need for the season you’re in.

And that became Lesson 2 of 2025.

• Thank you for taking time to read this week’s lesson. If this message encouraged you and you’d like support in helping your ministry, team, or organization navigate change with clarity and confidence, I’d love to partner with you through SK Consulting. I offer leadership development, team trainings, and culturally responsive workshops designed to help people grow with purpose. Feel free to reach out anytime. Lesson 3 is coming next week!

Loss Isn’t the End, It’s God’s Redirection

• As we move through the final weeks of the year, I wanted to share four major life lessons I learned in 2025. Each one came through real experiences—some painful, some surprising, and some deeply encouraging. My hope is that these lessons will uplift you and remind you that God is always at work, even when life takes unexpected turns. Here is Lesson 1.

Lesson 1: When Loss Becomes God’s Redirection

In March, I never would have imagined that I’d be forced into one of the most difficult transitions of my life. Losing my job came out of nowhere. Worse than the financial uncertainty was the realization that my position, and the work I poured my heart into, didn’t seem to matter to the people who were supposed to value it. It stung. It felt personal. It felt unfair. And honestly, it was.

Then came another blow: unemployment denied. Not because I wasn’t eligible, but because I had “waited too long” to apply. In a moment when I desperately needed support, the system failed me. I felt like everything was collapsing at once.

But here’s the surprising thing: that season of loss became one of the greatest lessons of my year.

Loss Strips Away Illusions

Losing something you depend on reveals where you’ve placed your identity. For me, I realized I had subtly tied my worth to productivity, approval, and the opinions of people who didn’t see the full value of my work. When that rug was pulled from under me, God gently reminded me:

“Your identity is in Me, not in your title.”

Sometimes God allows a door to close so we stop settling for places that no longer honor us.

Redirection Often Looks Like Disruption

When you’re pushed out of a place, it can feel like punishment—but it’s often preparation. In my case, I didn’t land where I thought I would. Instead, God opened a door for me to work full time at my church.

It wasn’t the path I had planned.
It wasn’t even on my radar.
But it was exactly where God needed me to be.

Through that transition, I have found more purpose, peace, and alignment than I’ve had in years. What felt like rejection was actually divine redirection.

When Systems Fail, God Steps In

Unemployment said “no,” but God said, “Watch this.”
People said my job wasn’t valuable, but God said, “Your work matters to Me.”

When earthly support systems fall apart, it forces us to lean on the One who never fails. God’s provision didn’t come through the institution I expected—it came through purpose, relationships, unexpected opportunities, and favor that no employer can take away.

The Lesson: Loss is often the classroom where God teaches breakthrough.

Sometimes the blessing is not in what was taken away, but in what you’re being pushed toward.

If you’re walking through a season where it feels like everything is falling apart, I want this to encourage you: This isn’t the end. It may be the beginning of God’s redirection.
What feels like a setback is often the doorway to something you wouldn’t have chosen—but something God has prepared.

And that is the first lesson I learned in 2025.

• Thank you for reading and journeying with me through these reflections. If this lesson encouraged you, I’d love to help you bring growth, clarity, and spiritual development into your own leadership or ministry setting. Through SK Consulting, I provide workshops, coaching, and training that equip teams, leaders, and churches to navigate change with faith, purpose, and cultural insight. If you’d like to learn more or schedule a session, feel free to reach out—I’d be honored to partner with you. More lessons coming next week!

The Next Generation of Leaders: Raising Culturally Aware Disciples

We are raising a generation that will lead in a world far more interconnected than the one we grew up in. Boundaries are shrinking, cultures are mixing, and young leaders today must navigate complexity with wisdom, humility, and spiritual grounding. As mentors, pastors, educators, and parents, we are uniquely positioned to shape leaders who don’t just tolerate differences but honor them. Leaders who follow Jesus into every nation, every culture, and every conversation with grace and courage.

The World Our Kids Will Lead

Today’s emerging leaders are stepping into a world defined by global collaboration. Their classmates may speak three languages. Their coworkers may come from five different continents. Their future ministry, business, or service will likely involve diverse teams, cross-cultural communication, and global decision-making.

This means leadership development can’t only be about character, competence, and calling—it must also include cultural awareness and global fluency.

Cultural Awareness Is a Discipleship Issue

Intercultural competence is not just a professional skill; it is a spiritual one. Jesus consistently modeled a love that crossed borders. He welcomed the outsider, affirmed the marginalized, and taught His disciples to see people beyond stereotypes.

Raising culturally aware disciples means helping young leaders:

• Recognize and value cultural differences

• Practice empathy and active listening

• Avoid quick judgments and assumptions

• Honor the Imago Dei in every person

• Learn how culture shapes communication, conflict, and worldview

This is not “soft” leadership—it is biblical leadership.

Mentoring the Next Generation

Cultural fluency doesn’t happen automatically. It grows through intentional exposure, honest conversations, and guided reflection. Here are three practical ways to mentor young leaders:

1. Invite Them Into Cross-Cultural Experiences

Take them on mission trips, service projects, international festivals, or multicultural worship gatherings.
Let them see, hear, taste, and feel how big God's world really is.

Exposure builds perspective. Perspective builds maturity. Maturity builds leaders.

2. Teach Them to Ask Better Questions

Culturally aware leaders are curious, not assumptive. Train them to ask:

• “Help me understand…”

• “What’s important in your culture about…?”

• “How can I honor your background here?”

These questions communicate respect and build trust.

3. Model Humility and Teachability

Young leaders watch more than they listen.
Show them what it looks like to apologize, to learn, and to grow.

When you model humility, they begin to see cultural awareness as a lifestyle, not a one-time training.

A Leadership Future Shaped by the Great Commission

The next generation needs leaders who can cross cultures, build bridges, and create belonging. Leaders who understand the global context they serve in. Leaders who carry the love of Christ into every space, whether it’s a campus, a boardroom, a ministry, or a virtual international team.

Raising culturally aware disciples means preparing young leaders not just for today, but for the future God is calling them into.

If we want a generation capable of transforming the world, we must equip them to understand the world. This is our calling as mentors and disciple-makers: to raise leaders who are not only spiritually grounded but globally aware. The future belongs to those who can see through the eyes of others, love across differences, and lead with Christlike compassion. Let’s invest intentionally so that the next generation rises with wisdom, fluency, and a faith big enough for the whole world.

Climate Justice and Christian Responsibility: Beyond Stewardship

In recent years, the phrase climate change has moved from scientific journals to dinner tables, churches, and classrooms. Rising global temperatures, devastating wildfires, floods, and droughts have forced humanity to face the reality that creation is groaning (Romans 8:22). But as followers of Christ, our response to the environmental crisis cannot be reduced to simple “green living” or trendy activism. The call runs deeper; it’s about justice, love of neighbor, and obedience to the Creator.

From Stewardship to Responsibility

Christians often talk about stewardship as the belief that we are caretakers of God’s creation. It’s a beautiful and biblical truth, yet it can sometimes sound passive, as though we’re just maintaining a garden rather than repairing what’s been broken.

In Genesis 2:15, God placed Adam in the garden “to work it and take care of it.” This was a divine assignment, not just a casual suggestion. To care for creation means to actively protect, restore, and nurture it, not exploit it for short-term gain. The moment we neglect this role, creation suffers, and the people in it.

Climate Justice: Loving Our Neighbor in a Warming World

At its heart, climate change is not just an environmental issue, it’s a justice issue. The people most affected by floods, droughts, and rising sea levels are often those who contribute the least to the problem: the poor, the marginalized, and the global South.

In Micah 6:8, we are reminded of what the Lord requires: “To act justly, love mercy, and walk humbly with your God.” Acting justly today means recognizing that creation care is also people care. When we reduce pollution, conserve energy, and advocate for sustainable policies, we are protecting vulnerable communities—those Jesus calls “the least of these” (Matthew 25:40).

A Personal Reflection

I have had the opportunity to live around some farmers (from Ghana to California to Ohio) and I have learned a few things about the land they work on to produce food. I remember visiting with a farmer friend a few years ago when they struggled to grow crops on the regular. The rainy season had become unpredictable. The land, once fertile and green, was dry and cracked. This friend told me that they pray for rain now in the same way others pray for bread. 

That moment struck me deeply. Climate change wasn’t a distant debate rather a lived reality for people made in the image of God. Creation care suddenly felt less like an environmental program and more like a gospel mandate.

Creation Groans, But Also Hopes

Romans 8:19–21 tells us that creation itself waits in eager expectation for redemption. That means the work we do, like planting trees, reducing waste, advocating for cleaner energy, educating our communities, participates in God’s redemptive plan. Our small acts of faithfulness echo the greater restoration Christ will bring.

Moving Forward: Practical Steps of Faithful Action

1. Reflect and Repent: Acknowledge where our lifestyles have contributed to waste or neglect of God’s world.

2. Reduce and Reuse: Practice simple things such as driving less, wasting less, and reusing more. Stewardship starts in the ordinary.

3. Advocate: Use your voice. Support policies and leaders who value sustainable, just environmental practices.

4. Educate and Empower: Teach others that creation care is discipleship, not distraction.

5. Pray: Pray for wisdom for leaders, healing for creation, and courage for the Church to lead by example.

Conclusion: The Gospel Is Big Enough for the Earth

God’s redemptive plan isn’t limited to human souls, it includes the whole of creation. The same Savior who reconciles us to the Father also promises to make all things new (Revelation 21:5). As Christians, we can’t stand by as the earth and our neighbors suffer. We are called to reflect Christ’s love in how we treat every part of His creation.

Caring for the planet isn’t political — it’s spiritual. It’s not about choosing sides — it’s about choosing obedience. When we move beyond stewardship into true responsibility, we embody the hope that the world so desperately needs.

From Diversity to Belonging: Why Intercultural Competence Is the Next Step

We’ve spent years talking about diversity. And rightly so. Representation matters. It’s a reflection of justice, equity, and progress. Many organizations and communities have made meaningful strides in ensuring that people from different races, ethnicities, genders, and nationalities finally have a seat at the table.

But here’s the question we must ask: Now that we’re sitting at the same table, do we truly understand each other?

The Limits of Representation

Diversity is a necessary first step, but it’s not the finish line. We can fill our workplaces, schools, and churches with people from all backgrounds and still miss connection. Representation without a relationship leads to frustration. It can even create environments where people feel present but not heard, included but not valued.

True belonging requires more than numbers or quotas; it requires understanding. It’s about creating spaces where people don’t just show up but show up as their authentic selves without fear of being misunderstood or dismissed.

The Missing Link: Intercultural Competence

The real challenge we face today isn’t a lack of diversity, instead, it’s a lack of intercultural competence.

Intercultural competence is the ability to engage across cultural differences with humility, empathy, and adaptability. It means learning to suspend judgment, to listen deeply, and to seek understanding before offering solutions. It’s not just about knowing that people are different. It’s about knowing how to connect amid those differences.

Without intercultural competence, diverse spaces can become tense spaces. Miscommunication, assumptions, and cultural blind spots can quietly erode trust. But with intercultural competence, diversity becomes a bridge to belonging.

From Diversity to Belonging

I remember one particular staff retreat early in my career. We had a beautifully diverse team that had different races, nationalities, and faith traditions represented around the table. On paper, it was a picture of progress.

But as the conversation deepened, tension began to surface. What one person viewed as “direct communication,” another experienced as “disrespect.” What was meant as openness felt like confrontation. We were speaking the same language, but our meanings were worlds apart.

It was at that moment I realized: diversity had brought us together, but intercultural competence was what would help us stay together. We didn’t need more training on policies or statistics; what we needed to learn was how to listen across differences. That experience reshaped the way I approach leadership and ministry ever since.

Belonging is what happens when diversity and intercultural competence meet. It’s the fruit of intentional relationships built on curiosity, compassion, and mutual respect. When people feel seen and valued, not just for their presence, but for their perspective, culture shifts. 
This is the work that transforms communities, classrooms, and churches. It’s what moves us from simply counting who’s in the room to caring for who’s in the room.

A Call Forward

So as we celebrate diversity, let’s not stop there. Let’s ask the harder question: How can we grow in intercultural competence so that everyone, regardless of background, truly experiences belonging?
Because diversity is a milestone. Belonging is the mission.

The Digital Church: Navigating Faith in the Age of AI and Algorithms

We live in an age where algorithms often shape what we believe, artificial intelligence completes our sentences, and church livestreams bring worship into living rooms across the world. Technology isn’t just a tool anymore it’s a companion, a counselor, and sometimes, a quiet competitor for our attention. As artificial intelligence (AI) and digital platforms continue to evolve, they are redefining how we gather, learn, and grow as believers. The question is no longer if technology will shape the Church, but how we, as the Body of Christ, will shape technology through the lens of faith, wisdom, and discernment.

AI and Discipleship: Data or Disciples?

From Bible apps that track your reading habits to AI chatbots that answer theological questions, discipleship has gone digital. There’s beauty in that. More people now have access to Scripture, sermons, and study resources than ever before. But there’s also a subtle danger: when algorithms determine what we see and hear, they can begin to shape what we believe.

True discipleship isn’t about convenience, it’s about transformation. And transformation doesn’t come from an app; it comes from encounter. Jesus didn’t disciple the twelve through daily notifications. He walked with them. He asked hard questions. He invited them into messy, relational spaces where truth and grace collided. AI can support our spiritual growth, but it can’t replace the sacred rhythm of human connection and divine encounter that discipleship requires.

AI and Preaching: The Sermon in the Age of Automation

It’s no longer science fiction; AI can now generate sermons. Some pastors already use tools to help outline messages or analyze audience engagement. Used wisely, these can enhance creativity and efficiency. But we must remember that inspiration doesn’t come from code; it comes from the Spirit. 

Preaching is not just content delivery to be presented through chat boxes, it’s a sacred act of hearing from God and speaking His heart to His people. The prophet Jeremiah said, “His word is in my heart like a fire” (Jeremiah 20:9). That kind of fire can’t be downloaded. It must be cultivated through prayer, humility, and obedience.

Technology can help us craft the message, but only the Holy Spirit can convict the heart.

AI and Discernment: Who’s Leading the Conversation?

Discernment has become one of the Church’s most needed and most neglected virtues.
In a world where digital feeds curate our worldview, believers must learn to question not just what they see, but why they’re seeing it.

Algorithms are designed to keep us engaged, not necessarily enlightened. They feed us what we like, which can create spiritual echo chambers. That’s why we must practice digital discernment and evaluate not only information, but also intention.

Paul’s warning in Romans 12:2 feels more relevant than ever:
“Do not conform to the pattern of this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind.”

Renewal requires awareness. It demands that we pause before we post, pray before we share, and filter our thoughts through Scripture more than social media.

The Way Forward: Redeeming Technology for Kingdom Purposes

The Church doesn’t need to fear technology; it needs to redeem it. AI can be a bridge, not a barrier, when guided by wisdom and mission. Imagine AI tools that help missionaries translate Scripture faster, analyze community needs, or provide accessible discipleship content across languages and time zones. The key is ensuring the tool serves the truth, not the other way around.

As we navigate this digital age, may our posture be one of prayerful innovation:
• Use technology wisely: not as a replacement for the Spirit, but as a resource for ministry.
• Guard our hearts: because no algorithm can discern motives like God can.
• Stay grounded in community: for the Church is not virtual, but incarnational.
• Don’t get stuck on a single algorithm: Consume content from an opposing view.

Reflection and Prayer

Lord, in a world run by data and devices, help us not lose sight of Your voice.
Teach us to use technology with integrity, creativity, and care.
Guard our minds from distraction and our hearts from deception.
May every digital platform become a pulpit for Your truth,
and may Your Church shine not because of innovation but because of revelation.
Amen.

How Christians Can Respond to Polarization

We don’t have to look far to see how divided our world has become. Families split over disagreements, friendships falter over differing views, and communities fracture along cultural, social, and generational lines. In a time when polarization seems to be the air we breathe, how should followers of Jesus respond?

The good news is this: the Bible has always spoken into fractured times. From the divided kingdoms of Israel and Judah to the early church wrestling with Jew-Gentile relations, God’s people have faced division before. And in each season, the call has been clear: pursue unity in Christ.

The Biblical Call to Unity

1. Jesus’ Prayer for Oneness
   In John 17, Jesus prays that His followers “may be one” just as He and the Father are one. Unity is not an optional extra; it is central to our witness. When the world sees Christians united in love, it sees a reflection of God Himself.

2. Paul’s Plea to the Church
   Writing to the Corinthians, a church torn apart by factions, Paul reminds them: “Is Christ divided?” (1 Corinthians 1:13). Our allegiance is not to ideologies, tribes, or personalities, but to Christ alone.

3. Bearing With One Another
   Colossians 3:13 urges us to “bear with each other and forgive one another.” True unity requires patience, humility, and a willingness to extend grace… even when it’s not easy.

Practical Peacemaking in a Divided Community

1. Listen Before You Speak
   Polarization thrives on assumptions. By practicing intentional listening, we honor the dignity of others and open the door to understanding. James 1:19 reminds us: “Everyone should be quick to listen, slow to speak and slow to become angry.”

2. Seek Common Ground
   In fractured communities, focusing on what unites us, ie. our shared humanity, our shared faith, and our shared hopes; these help us build bridges. Unity does not mean uniformity; it means finding strength in diversity while pursuing a common good.

3. Model Reconciliation
   Christians are called “ambassadors of reconciliation” (2 Corinthians 5:18). This means being proactive in healing relationships and quick to apologizing when we’ve hurt others, forgiving when we’ve been wronged, and resisting the temptation to withdraw.

4. Create Spaces of Belonging
   Whether in churches, small groups, or community gatherings, we can cultivate environments where people feel safe to share their perspectives without fear of judgment or rejection.

5. Pray for Unity
   True reconciliation requires the Spirit’s work. Prayer softens hearts, breaks down walls, and reminds us that unity is ultimately God’s gift, not our achievement.

A Different Kind of Witness

When Christians choose unity over division, grace over hostility, and reconciliation over bitterness, we become a countercultural witness in a fractured world. Our communities can be places where differences are not erased but transformed by the love of Christ. As Paul reminds us in Ephesians 4:3, “Make every effort to keep the unity of the Spirit through the bond of peace.” Every effort matters. Every step toward peace matters. And in doing so, we show a divided world the power of the Gospel.

Reflection

Polarization is not just a problem “out there”; it often creeps into our homes, churches, and relationships. Following Christ means we resist the urge to take sides and instead choose the harder path of peacemaking. True unity does not mean ignoring differences but rather it means inviting God to transform us into a people who reflect His love across every divide. Where in your life is God calling you to be a bridge-builder today?

Prayer

Heavenly Father,
Thank You for calling us to be Your people of peace in a world marked by division. Forgive us for the times we have added to the noise of polarization instead of reflecting Your love. Teach us to listen with humility, to speak with grace, and to act with courage. Fill us with Your Spirit so that we may become ambassadors of reconciliation in our families, communities, and world. Unite us, Lord, so that our lives point others to You.
In Jesus’ name, Amen.

Caring for the Widow, the Orphan, and the Stranger

When Christians talk about justice, it’s not a trendy word we borrow from politics or culture. Justice has always been at the very heart of God’s character and at the center of the biblical story. From Genesis to Revelation, Scripture consistently calls God’s people to embody His justice on earth. If we want to understand what it means to live faithfully today, we have to look closely at the biblical and theological roots of justice.

Justice in the Hebrew Bible

The Hebrew Bible paints a clear picture of justice as both relational and societal. One of the most repeated refrains throughout the Torah, the Prophets, and the Writings is the call to protect the most vulnerable in society: “the widow, the orphan, and the alien.” These three groups symbolized those who lacked social, economic, and political protection. Over and over again, God reminds Israel that their treatment of the marginalized reveals the condition of their covenant faithfulness.

• Exodus 22:22-23 warns: “Do not mistreat or oppress a foreigner, for you were foreigners in Egypt. Do not take advantage of the widow or the fatherless. If you do, and they cry out to me, I will certainly hear their cry.”

• Isaiah 1:17 commands: “Learn to do right; seek justice. Defend the oppressed. Take up the cause of the fatherless; plead the case of the widow.”

• Micah 6:8 distills God’s requirement: “To act justly and to love mercy and to walk humbly with your God.”

Justice in the Old Testament is not simply about law enforcement or fairness. It is covenantal and it flows out of God’s character. Yahweh identifies Himself as the defender of the powerless, and Israel’s vocation was to mirror His justice in community life.

Justice in the New Testament

When we turn to the New Testament, we see continuity with the Old Testament vision, but now embodied in the life and ministry of Jesus. He proclaimed that the arrival of the Kingdom of God is marked by justice, mercy, and peace.

• In Luke 4:18-19, Jesus declares His mission using Isaiah’s words: “The Spirit of the Lord is on me, because he has anointed me to proclaim good news to the poor… to set the oppressed free.”

• In His parables, Jesus elevates the importance of caring for the least of these (Matthew 25:31-46).

• The early church lived this out by sharing possessions so no one was in need (Acts 2:44-45).

Paul, too, emphasizes justice in community life. His teachings on reconciliation, equity, and mutual care show that the gospel is not just about personal salvation but also about transformed relationships that reflect God’s justice.

Justice as a Core Christian Tenet

When we talk about justice as Christians, we are not adding something extra to our faith. We are returning to its roots. Justice is woven into the very fabric of Scripture and God’s heart for the world.

To care for the widow, the orphan, and the alien today is to care for those who are most vulnerable in our own context: the refugee/immigrant, the single parent, the homeless, the marginalized. Justice is not optional; it is divine mandate.

The biblical call is clear: God’s people are to reflect His character by doing justice, loving mercy, and walking humbly with Him. Anything less distorts the gospel.

A Reflective Moment

Join me today by pausing and asking yourself: Who are the “widow, orphan, and alien” in my community? What would it look like for me, my family, and my church to embody God’s justice in tangible ways this week?

Justice is not just a theory; it’s a way of life. And when Christians live out this mandate, the world catches a glimpse of the Kingdom of God.

Faith Habits That Break Barriers & Build Bridges

In a world divided by misunderstanding and cultural distance, daily spiritual practices can serve as powerful tools for healing, empathy, and reconciliation. These habits are more than personal disciplines—they are sacred invitations to see others as God sees them. This week, I want to explore with you how intentional spiritual rhythms can help us grow in empathy, humility, and cultural awareness

Empathy. Humility. Cultural awareness. These aren’t just good ideas for Christians—they’re essential for anyone seeking to follow Jesus in a divided world. But how do we actually grow in these traits, especially in a time when misunderstanding and polarization feel so common?

One of the most powerful ways God shapes our hearts is through our daily spiritual practices. These habits—when done with intention—create space for the Holy Spirit to deepen our love for others, especially those from cultures different from our own. Spiritual disciplines are not just about personal holiness; they’re about transformation. They reorient our lives around the Kingdom of God, where every tribe and tongue are seen, valued, and honored.

Daily Rhythms For Cultivating Cultural Humility

Here are some of the rhythms I’ve found most impactful on my own journey of faith and intercultural growth:

Listening prayer has become a sacred rhythm in my day. It’s the practice of sitting quietly with God - not to talk, but to listen. In a culture obsessed with noise and productivity, listening prayers slows us down and attunes our hearts to what matters most. As we learn to listen to God, we also become more sensitive to the voices around us, especially the ones we’ve been conditioned to overlook. It is important to start the day by asking, “Lord, whose story do I need to hear today?” That question alone will open up deep conversations, unexpected relationships, and more humility in our responses.

Another discipline that has stretched me is lament - particularly cultural lament. Scripture is full of lament, from the psalms of David to the cries of the prophets. And yet, many of us skip this step when it comes to injustice or pain that doesn’t directly impact us. Practicing cultural lament means entering into the grief of others with compassion, not defensiveness. This isn’t about being overly religious or putting on a show; it’s about letting God open our hearts to feel something we might otherwise miss. Lament helps us move beyond our limited perspective and into true compassion. It means acknowledging generational wounds, systemic brokenness, or the everyday struggles that some communities face. When I bring these burdens before God, I’m reminded that empathy is not weakness—it’s Christlikeness. 

One simple but profound habit that’s shaped my perspective is gratitude journaling through a cross-cultural lens. At the end of each day, jot down one thing you’re grateful for related to another culture—maybe a tradition, a person, a story you heard, or even a meal you enjoyed. It’s helped me shift from tolerance to appreciation, and from assumption to awe. It’s easy to critique what’s different; it takes intentionality to thank God for it.

Another practice I believe it’s important to lean into is reading Scripture through a global lens. The Bible was written in cultural contexts very different from our own, and it’s important to remember that. I ask questions like, “How would someone from a different background read this passage? What assumptions am I bringing?” This kind of reflection deepens my respect for the global Church and keeps me humble in my interpretations. The Word of God is for all people, and reading it that way changes everything.

On a more physical level, prayer walking has helped me connect my body, spirit, and surroundings. When I walk my neighborhood or campus and pray for the nations, I’m reminded that God’s mission is bigger than my immediate concerns. I pray for local immigrant families, unreached people groups, or global conflicts. It anchors me in God’s love for the world and reminds me that wherever I go, I carry the presence of Christ.

One of the most impactful spiritual disciplines I’ve grown into is hospitality. Inviting people into my home or simply sharing a meal with someone from a different background is a sacred act. Hospitality breaks down walls and opens up space for listening, laughter, and vulnerability. It’s not about perfection—it’s about presence. I’ve learned that sitting at someone else’s table—or welcoming them to mine—is often more transformative than any sermon or seminar.

Finally, there’s daily repentance and recommitment. This might be the most personal one. Each night, I ask God to show me where I assumed, judged, ignored, or stayed silent. It’s not about shame—it’s about recalibration. I want to see people as God sees them. I want to love better tomorrow than I did today. Repentance keeps my heart soft, and recommitment keeps me on mission.

These daily habits are not about checking boxes—they are about becoming more like Jesus. Empathy doesn’t grow in a vacuum. Humility doesn’t appear overnight. Cultural awareness isn’t built in one workshop. These are the fruits of daily, Spirit-led formation. The good news is, we’re not doing this alone. The Holy Spirit is our guide. And every small practice adds up to a big change over time.

If you’re ready to cultivate a cross-cultural heart, I invite you to join me.

Reflective Prayer

Lord, open my heart to see beyond myself. Teach me to listen before I speak, to lament with those who grieve, to give thanks for the beauty in every culture, and to walk humbly with You each day. Shape me through these practices so that my life reflects Your Kingdom—where every tribe, tongue, and nation is honored. Keep me soft in repentance, bold in hospitality, and faithful in love. May my daily rhythms draw me closer to You and closer to those You’ve called me to serve. Amen.

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Not Limited by Where You Came From

When we look at the life of Solomon, it’s clear that God’s purposes are not limited by human circumstances. Solomon was the son of David and Bathsheba, a relationship that began in the sin of adultery (2 Samuel 11). By human standards, his very existence could have been dismissed as illegitimate. Yet God chose him, blessed him, and used him in a mighty way.

What the World Says vs. What God Sees

The world may look at your beginnings and label you as unqualified, unworthy, or illegitimate. People may whisper about your past or the way you came into the world and other circumstances. But God sees something different. He looks beyond circumstances and sees destiny. Solomon could have lived under the shadow of his parents’ sin. He could have believed the narrative that his life was disqualified from greatness. Instead, his heart was set on serving as the best king he could be, and God honored that.

Even Solomon’s own family dynamics were complicated. His stepbrothers resisted his kingship. Absalom, another son of David, was considered by many the rightful heir. But God had other plans. This shows us that God’s call on your life isn’t determined by birth order, pedigree, or public opinion. His choice is sovereign. When He sets His hand on you, no rival, no critic, and no past mistake can stop His purpose.

Lessons from Solomon’s Story

Solomon’s life is a reminder that God’s calling is never confined by human limitations. From his journey we can draw out some powerful truths:

1. Your beginnings don’t define your future.

Solomon’s story began in scandal, yet his life ended up marked by wisdom, prosperity, and influence. This shows us that no matter how messy your past, God can redeem it. Maybe you’ve carried shame because of family history, past mistakes, or things beyond your control. Solomon reminds us that your starting point is not your destiny, God’s grace is. Stop letting shame dictate your steps. Lift your eyes to the God who transforms broken beginnings into beautiful stories.

2. Attitude matters more than circumstances.

Solomon could have lived under the shadow of being “illegitimate.” Instead, he chose to embrace the role God placed before him. He prayed not for wealth or power but for wisdom to lead well (1 Kings 3:9). His posture of humility allowed God to elevate him. You may not get to choose your circumstances, but you do get to choose your response. A heart of humility, faith, and obedience positions you for God’s favor.

3. God’s plan prevails, even through opposition.

Solomon didn’t have an easy road to the throne. His siblings resisted his kingship, and Absalom was considered the rightful heir. But God had already chosen Solomon, and no rival or critic could cancel God’s decision. People may overlook you, underestimate you, or even oppose you, but God’s call on your life cannot be overturned by human opinion. Trust His sovereignty when doors seem closed or when others rise against you.

4. Legacy is built on reliance, not lineage.

Though Solomon came from a complicated family story, his legacy was established by relying on God’s wisdom. His lineage may have been questioned, but his legacy was undeniable. Don’t obsess over where you come from, rather, focus on Who you belong to. God can take a broken family tree and graft it into His eternal story of redemption.

Together, these lessons remind me that what others see as disqualified, God sees as destined.

A Word for Us Today

Maybe you’ve been told you’ll never measure up. Maybe your past or your family background has been thrown in your face as proof that you can’t succeed. Hear this: God is not limited by your lineage. He is looking for a willing heart, not a perfect pedigree. If God could raise Solomon from scandal to the throne of Israel, He can use your life for His glory too.

Reflection Question

Where have you believed the lie that your past or your family disqualifies you? How might God be inviting you to trust His call instead of people’s opinions?

Closing Prayer

Lord, thank You that my worth is not defined by where I came from but by who You are. Remind me that my lineage doesn’t limit Your purpose for my life. Help me walk with faith, courage, and humility, trusting that Your plans for me are good. Amen.

Finding The Sweet Spot

The story of Goldilocks and the Three Bears has always fascinated me. I mean, how does someone just walk into a stranger’s house, rummage through their belongings, and make themselves at home? And let’s not forget—it was the home of bears! (But that’s a lesson for another day.)

What strikes me most in this story isn’t the trespassing but Goldilocks’ search for balance, her search for the sweet spot. She tried porridge that was too hot and too cold, chairs that were too big and too small, and beds that were too hard and too soft. But when she found the one that was just right for her, she was satisfied.

The Bible’s Take on Balance

The Bible also speaks to this pursuit of balance. In Ecclesiastes 7:16–17, Solomon writes:

“Do not be overrighteous, neither be overwise—why destroy yourself?
Do not be overwicked, and do not be a fool—why die before your time?”

We understand easily enough that too much wickedness and foolishness leads to destruction. But Solomon’s wisdom goes further; he warns us against extremes on the other side as well. Too much self-righteousness and self-proclaimed wisdom can be just as dangerous.

Why? Because when we elevate ourselves as too righteous or too wise, we stop relying on God.

The Dangers of the Extremes

Solomon’s wisdom in Ecclesiastes 7 reminds us that both ends of the spectrum can be dangerous. We usually recognize the danger of wickedness and foolishness, but sometimes we miss the subtler trap of being overrighteous or overwise.

The Danger of Overrighteousness

When we start to think of ourselves as overly righteous, we risk becoming like the Pharisees—focused more on rules, appearances, and self-image than on God’s heart. Instead of humility, pride takes root. We begin to measure others against our standards and forget that our righteousness is nothing without God’s grace.

• Modern example: This shows up when church becomes more about dress codes, checklists, or religious performance than about love and grace. It’s when someone says, “I don’t struggle with that sin, so I must be more spiritual than you.” Overrighteousness blinds us to our own need for mercy.

The Danger of Overwisdom

There’s nothing wrong with pursuing knowledge and understanding. But when wisdom turns into self-sufficiency, we stop listening to God. We lean on our own understanding instead of His guidance (Proverbs 3:5–6). This extreme can make us dismissive of prayer, dependent on logic alone, or even skeptical of God’s power.

• Modern example: This shows up when we think we can “Google” our way through life instead of seeking God in prayer. Or when we place more trust in self-help books and authors and podcasts than in God’s Word. Overwisdom whispers, “You’ve got this on your own,” when in reality, we desperately need His direction.

The Danger of Wickedness

On the other end, giving ourselves over to sin and rebellion erodes our relationship with God and leads to destruction. It may promise pleasure or freedom, but it ultimately brings bondage and brokenness.

• Modern example: This shows up when culture tells us, “Do whatever feels good” or “Live your truth.” It may seem harmless at first, but unchecked sin eventually entangles us in consequences we didn’t see coming. And by the way, there is no “your truth” or “my truth” or “their truth” (but that’s for another blog entirely)

4. The Danger of Foolishness

Foolishness might look like carelessness, recklessness, or ignoring wise counsel. This extreme leaves us vulnerable to consequences that God never intended for us.

• Modern example: This shows up when we rush into decisions without prayer, ignore godly advice from mentors, or live recklessly with money, relationships, or health. Foolishness says, “I’ll deal with the fallout later,” but later often comes with regret.

When we lean too far to either side, whether self-righteousness, self-reliance, foolishness, or sin, we miss the sweet spot of humble dependence on God. Balance doesn’t mean being oblivious; it means recognizing our limits and staying anchored in His grace.

Living in the Sweet Spot

The sweet spot of life isn’t about lukewarm faith or half-hearted living rather it’s about staying in a place where we fully depend on God. It’s where humility meets faith, where wisdom is surrendered to His greater wisdom, and where our righteousness is grounded not in our works but in His mercy.

This sweet spot keeps us balanced, humble, and deeply reliant on the One who holds all things together.

Goldilocks may have been looking for the “just right” bed, chair, and bowl of porridge but as believers, we’re called to find our “just right” in Christ.

Not too self-righteous. Not too self-reliant. But grounded in the sweet spot of God’s grace.

Reflection Question

Where in your life are you leaning toward extremes whether it’s too self-sufficient, too self-righteous, or too reliant on others? How might God be inviting you back to the sweet spot of dependence on Him?

Closing Prayer

Lord, thank You for teaching me that true balance comes from depending on You. Guard me from the pride of thinking I am too righteous or too wise, and protect me from the foolishness of sin. Help me to live in the sweet spot of Your grace, where my heart rests in You alone. Amen.

Learning from Joseph’s Life

The story of Joseph in Genesis is one of the most powerful pictures of God’s faithfulness in the Bible. His journey was not a straight line to success; it was marked by hardship, waiting, and disappointment. Yet through it all, God was writing a bigger story.

When we look closely, Joseph’s life shows us four stages every believer may face: the Pit, Potiphar’s house, the Prison, and the Palace.

The Pit: Darkness and Betrayal

Joseph’s journey began with a dream, but quickly he found himself in a pit by his own brothers (Genesis 37:23–24). The pit represents those dark moments in our lives when we feel abandoned, forgotten, and misunderstood.

The pit reminds us that even when others betray us, God’s purposes are not canceled. Darkness doesn’t define the end of our story, it often marks the beginning of God’s shaping process.

Potiphar’s House: Relying on Someone Else

After being sold into slavery, Joseph ended up in Potiphar’s house. Here, he had some level of success and responsibility, but it was all under someone else’s authority (Genesis 39).

This stage represents seasons when we’re not in control of our own future, when we’re relying on someone else’s decision, approval, or leadership. It’s tempting to feel stuck, but Joseph shows us that faithfulness in another person’s house prepares us for God’s greater assignment in our own.

The Prison: Depression and Delay

Even after doing right, Joseph was falsely accused and thrown into prison (Genesis 39:20). The prison symbolizes those seasons of delay and discouragement, when it feels like the walls are closing in.

Maybe you’ve been faithful, yet you feel overlooked. Joseph could have given up, but instead he used his gifts in prison to interpret dreams and serve others. Sometimes our “prisons” become the training ground where God develops the character needed for promotion.

The Palace: Redemption and Purpose

Finally, Joseph was elevated to Pharaoh’s palace, where he became second-in-command over all Egypt (Genesis 41:39–41). The palace represents the season of redemption, when God’s plan becomes clear and His promises are fulfilled.

But notice that Joseph didn’t arrive at the palace overnight. The pit, Potiphar’s house, and the prison were all necessary stops on the way to the palace. Each stage prepared him for the weight of leadership and the fulfillment of God’s dream for his life.

Our Journey

As believers, our journey may look like Joseph’s ups and downs, setbacks and breakthroughs. But through every stage, God is at work. The pit does not last forever. The prison is not permanent. And even in Potiphar’s house, God is preparing us for the palace.
The challenge is that many of us want to skip the pit, avoid Potiphar’s house, and rush past the prison so we can get to the palace as quickly as possible. But when we rush the process, we miss the lessons God is teaching us along the way. A palace reached too soon can become a place of pride instead of purpose. Without the shaping that comes in hidden seasons, the weight of leadership in the palace can crush us.
Joseph’s story shows us that the palace is not just about promotion, it is about preparation fulfilled. God used the pit to build endurance, Potiphar’s house to cultivate faithfulness, and the prison to develop humility and patience. By the time Joseph arrived at the palace, he was ready to steward influence with wisdom and grace.
Romans 8:28 reminds us: “And we know that in all things God works for the good of those who love him, who have been called according to his purpose.”

Reflection Question

Which stage of Joseph’s journey do you find yourself in today—the pit, Potiphar’s house, the prison, or the palace? How is God shaping your faith in this season?

Closing Prayer

Lord, thank You that every season of my journey has a purpose. When I feel stuck in the pit, overlooked in Potiphar’s house, or delayed in the prison, remind me that You are preparing me for the palace. Help me to trust Your timing, walk faithfully in every stage, and rest in the promise that You are working all things together for my good and Your glory. Amen.

Religion vs. Relationship: What God Really Wants

There’s a big difference between religion and relationship, and the distinction changes everything about how we live our faith.

Religion says: “I obey so God will love me.”
It sets up a system of rules, appearances, and checklists. It commands us to do this and not do that. At its core, religion is about trying to earn God’s approval through our works.

But relationship says: “I’m already loved by God, so I obey.”
It’s not about earning love; it’s about responding to love. A true relationship with God starts with grace. It begins with the reality that Jesus already paid the price for our sins, and nothing we do can make Him love us more or less.

The Danger of Religion Without Relationship

When our faith slips into mere religion, it becomes about performative. We measure ourselves and others by how well we and/or they keep the rules. We start focusing on appearances, traditions, and what others think. And in the process, we lose sight of the heart of God and the Gospel.

Jesus Himself warned about this. He often confronted the Pharisees, who were meticulous about rules but far from God’s heart. He said in Matthew 15:8:
“These people honor me with their lips, but their hearts are far from me.”

Religion without relationship can leave us tired, burdened, and feeling like we’re never enough.

The Beauty of Relationship

Relationship with God, on the other hand, is rooted in love. We obey, not because we’re trying to earn something but because we’ve already been given everything in Christ.

• Religion is about earning. Relationship is about receiving.

• Religion focuses on rules. Relationship focuses on love.

• Religion is about duty. Relationship is about delight.

When we walk with God in relationship, prayer becomes conversation, not obligation. Worship becomes overflow, not performance. Obedience becomes joy, not drudgery.

A Daily Invitation

So let us not get caught up in appearances, checklists, or performance. Let’s draw near to the One who invites us to:

• Walk with Him daily.

• Speak with Him freely.

• Know Him deeply.

Jesus is not a system. He is a Savior—and He wants your heart.
Reflection Question
This week, I encourage you to ask yourself: Am I living my faith as a checklist of duties, or as a response to God’s love?

Closing Prayer
Lord, thank You that Your love for me is not based on what I do but on who You are. Teach me to live out of relationship with You, not out of empty religion. Help me to walk with You daily, to obey from a place of love, and to trust that Your grace is more than enough. Amen.

An Anchor For The Soul

“When you pass through the waters, I will be with you; and when you pass through the rivers, they will not sweep over you.”

- Isaiah 43:2

Life has a way of bringing storms we never asked for. Sometimes they come suddenly, a diagnosis, a financial setback, the loss of a job, or the betrayal of someone we trusted. Other times the storms brew slowly, building in intensity until we feel the cables of our lives begin to strain.

The old hymn “Will Your Anchor Hold” asks a timeless question:

Will your anchor hold in the storms of life,
When the clouds unfold their wings of strife?
When the strong tides lift, and the cables strain,
Will your anchor drift, or firm remain?

It’s an honest question. Because if our anchor isn’t secured, the winds and waves will toss us wherever they please.

The Anchor That Holds

The refrain of the hymn gives us the answer:

We have an anchor that keeps the soul
Steadfast and sure while the billows roll;
Fastened to the Rock which cannot move,
Grounded firm and deep in the Saviour’s love!

Our security isn’t found in our strength, our planning, or even our best intentions. It’s found in the Rock that cannot move: Jesus Christ. Anchors are only as strong as what they’re fastened to. If your anchor is in the shifting sands of success, money, relationships, or titles, it won’t hold. But when it’s grounded in the love of Christ, it cannot fail.

Lessons From the Anchor

1. Anchors are unseen but essential.
   No one brags about the beauty of their anchor, yet without it, a ship won’t survive the storm. Faith works the same way. It may not always be visible, but it keeps us steady when nothing else can.

2. Anchors hold us in place, not out of the storm.
   Notice the hymn doesn’t promise an escape from the waves. The storm still rages, but the anchor ensures we won’t be swept away. God doesn’t always remove the storm, but He promises to keep us through it.

3. Anchors remind us of what is unshakable.
   In a world where everything feels temporary, Jesus is the Rock that cannot move. He was faithful yesterday, He is faithful today, and He will remain faithful tomorrow.

A Personal Word

I’ve walked through seasons where the winds of life were fierce, where what I thought would hold me together began to unravel. From a young age, the enemy tried multiple times to come for me in different ways - through physical injuries from accidents, through spiritual attacks, through professional sabotage, and through the heavy weight of mental exhaustion and depression.

But looking back, I see that the anchor of God’s love held me firm every single time. He healed me when car accidents could have taken my life. He preserved me when a playground injury or even falling through a building window could have left me broken beyond repair. He shielded me from curses spoken over my life and from spiritual traps meant to derail my purpose. He sustained me in the workplace when others schemed for my downfall. And He guarded my peace when everything around me felt chaotic.

Through it all, I may have felt the storm’s fury, but I was never lost to it.

That’s the beauty of the Savior’s love; it goes deeper than the waves can reach. His anchor doesn’t just hold us steady; it heals, preserves, and carries us through every trial designed to destroy us.

The Invitation

“We have this hope as an anchor for the soul, firm and secure.”
- Hebrews 6:19

So let me ask you: Where is your anchor today?

If it’s tied to something temporary like your career, your bank account, your relationships, or even your own strength, then the storm will eventually expose it. The winds of life have a way of showing us what we’re truly fastened to.

But if your anchor is grounded in Christ, you can be certain that you may bend, you may strain, you may even feel the spray of the waves crashing against you but you will not be destroyed. His love holds firm when everything else shifts.

Anchoring your life in Jesus doesn’t mean you’ll never face storms. It means that when the storm comes, you’ll have a security deeper than the waves, stronger than the winds, and steadier than the fiercest tide.

Do The Work

This week, I exhort you to pause and ask yourself: What is my anchor tied to and does it hold when the storms rise? Sit with this and deeply meditate on the answer. Examine yourself and reflect on what your response is. Write it down, and share it with someone you trust.

Say A Prayer

Lord, thank You for being the Rock that cannot be moved. In a world where storms come without warning, help us anchor our lives in You. Strengthen our faith when the waves rise high, and remind us that Your love is deeper and stronger than any tide we face. Keep us steadfast, sure, and grounded in You. Amen.

What’s In Your Hand?

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When God appeared to Moses and asked him to go to Egypt to lead the Israelites out of captivity, Moses hesitated. He gave excuse after excuse for why he wasn’t the right man for the job. His identity, in his own mind, was wrapped up in being a shepherd. He saw himself as nothing more than someone tending sheep.

But God interrupted that mindset with a question that would reshape everything:
“What is in your hand?”

Moses looked down and saw a staff, the tool of his trade, the symbol of his work. It was his career, his livelihood, his sense of identity. And God asked him to lay it down.

That staff, though simple, represented how Moses defined himself. It was as if God was saying: The thing you think defines you is not the limit of who you are. Let me show you another calling.

The Hard Work of Laying It Down

God often brings us into seasons where He calls us to lay certain things down. That doesn’t mean those things never mattered; it just means they don’t matter right now in the same way.

In March, when I got called into the HR office and was told my position was eliminated, it felt like someone had just asked me to lay down my staff. For nearly two decades, higher education had been my professional identity. I had poured my life, my energy, my gifts into it. And suddenly, it was gone.

I was holding on with both hands, and letting go did not feel like an opportunity… it felt like loss. Like failure. Like my very identity had slipped away.

But here’s the truth: that moment wasn’t about what I lost. It was about what God wanted to do with what was in my hand.

From Staff to Snake

When Moses laid down his staff, it became a snake. Think about that. The very thing he thought gave him security and identity turned into something dangerous when surrendered.

How often do the things we cling to: our jobs, our titles, even our sense of self, become toxic when we hold them too tightly? Sometimes the very identity we protect is the thing that could poison us if we refuse to release it.

Yet, when Moses picked the staff back up at God’s command, it wasn’t just a shepherd’s staff anymore. It became the rod of God, the tool that would part the Red Sea, strike water from a rock, and display God’s power before Pharaoh.

The Invitation

Maybe God is asking you the same question He asked Moses: What is in your hand?

It could be your career, your degree, your role in your family, or even your comfort zone. And maybe, just maybe, God is inviting you to lay it down so He can transform it into something that serves His greater purpose.

The identity you think defines you isn’t the end of your story. In God’s hands, it’s just the beginning.

A Closing Prayer

Lord, thank You that You see more in us than we see in ourselves. Help us to release the things we grip too tightly, our titles, our roles, our comfort zones, and lay them before You. Teach us to trust that when we surrender, You can transform our identity and use it for Your glory. May what’s in our hand become what’s in Yours. Amen.

Raising inter-Racial Children: Lessons in Identity and Belonging

Proverbs 22:6 reminds us: “Train up a child in the way he should go, and when he is old he will not depart from it.” 

On Monday, as I was driving my kids to their first day back to school, I felt a nudge in my spirit to write about something deeply personal: raising inter-racial children. Watching them hop out of the car with their backpacks and bright smiles reminded me that their journey is more than just academics, it’s about learning who they are, where they belong, and how they will grow into who God has created them to be.

The Joys and Challenges of Raising inter-racial Kids

Parenting is already a sacred responsibility, but when raising children in interracial or intercultural families, there are unique joys and challenges. Every detail—what we name our children, the languages they hear at home, the traditions we pass down, even how we care for their hair—becomes part of shaping their identity and sense of belonging.

For example, names often carry history. Choosing a name that reflects both sides of a child’s heritage can honor their story and give them a rootedness that affirms who they are. My wife and I experienced this firsthand when we chose a Gaelic name for one of our children. More than once, people questioned us—“Why a Gaelic name if neither of you are Gaelic?” What they didn’t see was that the name carried a deep personal meaning for us, one that spoke to values we wanted our child to carry. Sometimes, raising inter-racial children means explaining your choices to others who may not fully understand. And that’s okay—because ultimately, their name is part of their story, not anyone else’s.

Similarly, language is more than words—it’s connection. Teaching our kids even basic phrases from both cultural backgrounds helps them feel tied to grandparents, cousins, and communities they might not see every day.

And then there are the little things that matter more than outsiders may realize. For many families, hair care becomes a bonding activity and a way to affirm cultural pride. I remember when my wife had to learn about the texture number system for our daughter’s  hair. Suddenly, terms like “3C” or “4A” weren’t just abstract—they were vital to understanding how to care for her curls with love and intentionality. What seemed overwhelming at first became another way to affirm her beauty and heritage. Moments like these remind us that raising inter-racial children requires humility, learning, and a willingness to honor both sides of their story.

Celebrating holidays from both sides of the family tree also ensures kids know they don’t have to choose one culture over another and that they can carry both with dignity. It might look like observing Thanksgiving with one side of the family while also honoring cultural or traditional holidays from the other side, such as Lunar New Year, or Three Kings Day. These moments teach children that both heritages are worth honoring and that their identity isn’t divided but rather it’s enriched. Creating space at the table for multiple traditions gives them the freedom to embrace the “both/and” of who they are, rather than feeling pressured into an “either/or.”

Lessons in Identity & Belonging

Of course, there are challenges. inter-racial children sometimes wrestle with questions of “Am I enough?” or “Where do I fit in?” As parents, we can’t shield them from every difficult moment, but we can create a safe home where they learn that their full identity is not defined by others—it is anchored in Christ.

We live in Ross, Ohio, which I have heard and experienced many times is not a place where racial diversity is what people pride themselves on. My kids have often been the few “other” in their friend groups. In many ways, it makes sense to seek out spaces where students look like my kids, it feels safer, easier, and more affirming. But my wife and I had to ask ourselves: what lessons would that teach our bridgebuilding kids if we only stay in places that make us comfortable? San Diego was a beautiful place for us in many ways, especially racially, but here in Ohio we are challenged to see the opportunity differently. This is a place where we can all strive to be amazing disciples of Jesus and actively build bridges across cultures, even when it’s not convenient.

As Proverbs 22:6 reminds us: “Train up a child in the way he should go, and when he is old he will not depart from it.” When we raise our children to know that their ultimate belonging is in God’s family, we give them a foundation stronger than cultural divisions. Raising inter-racial children is not just about survival, it’s about discipleship. Our kids have the opportunity to become bridgebuilders in a divided world. They are uniquely positioned to see from multiple perspectives, to celebrate differences, and to embody a kingdom-minded vision where every tribe, tongue, and nation has a place at the table.

Practical Lessons for Parents of Inter-Racial Kids

Raising children who carry more than one culture is a sacred opportunity—and it takes both wisdom and intentionality. Here are a few lessons, rooted in both Scripture and lived experience, that can guide us as parents:

1. Speak Words of Identity Daily

• In Matthew 3:17, God affirms Jesus by saying, “This is my beloved Son, in whom I am well pleased.” Our kids need to hear the same from us. Remind your children often who they are in Christ and affirm the beauty of their cultural heritage. Simple daily phrases like, “God made you wonderfully,” or, “I love your curls, your name, your story,” go a long way.

2. Teach Them Their Heritage

• God commanded Israel to “remember” their story and pass it on to their children (Deuteronomy 6:6–7). Share stories from both sides of the family, cook traditional meals together, teach them songs, and celebrate cultural holidays. This helps them see both sides of their heritage as a gift.

3. Equip Them for Tough Conversations

• 1 Peter 3:15 encourages believers to be ready to give an answer with gentleness and respect. Prepare your kids for questions or comments they may face about their appearance, names, or family background. Role-play responses so they feel confident and not caught off guard.

4. Model Bridgebuilding in Your Own Friendships

• Jesus crossed cultural lines in His ministry—from Samaritans to Romans—showing that the gospel is for all. Let your kids see you building friendships across racial and cultural lines. When they see you inviting diversity into your circle, they learn to do the same.

5. Create a Spiritual Foundation First

• Proverbs 22:6 reminds us to “train up a child in the way he should go.” Teach them that their ultimate identity is not just Black, White, Asian, Latino, or a mix—it’s as children of God. Root them in prayer, worship, and Scripture so they learn that their worth is found in Christ above all else.

6. Embrace the Learning Curve as Parents

• James 1:5 promises wisdom to those who ask for it. Be humble enough to learn new things, whether it’s understanding hair textures, learning phrases in another language, or reading books on racial identity. Let your kids see you as a learner too.

Practical Lessons for Interracial and Bicultural Kids

This is for my brothers and  sister who grew up as an inter-racial child. Growing up with more than one culture is a gift, but it can also feel complicated at times. Here are some lessons, both biblical and practical, that can help you walk confidently in who you are:

1. Your Identity in Christ Comes First

• Galatians 3:28 reminds us, “There is neither Jew nor Greek… for you are all one in Christ Jesus.” Remember that before anyone labels you, God calls you His child. That’s the strongest foundation you can stand on.

2. Celebrate the Gift of Your Cultures

• Revelation 7:9 describes a vision of heaven with “every nation, tribe, people, and language” represented before God’s throne. Don’t hide parts of who you are. Celebrate them. Enjoy foods, music, traditions, and stories from both sides of your family. They make you unique and valuable.

3. Learn How to Answer Tough Questions with Grace

• Proverbs 15:1 teaches, “A gentle answer turns away wrath.” People may ask, “What are you?” or make comments about your name, your hair, or your family. There may be lots of microaggressive statements coming your way. Learn to respond with confidence and kindness by educating, sometimes with humor, and sometimes by walking away; either, you will be teaching people a lesson.

4. Embrace Being a Bridgebuilder

• Matthew 5:9 says, “Blessed are the peacemakers, for they will be called children of God.” Because you understand more than one culture, you can help connect people who might not understand each other. Use your perspective to bring peace, not division.

5. Find Safe People Who Get You

• Ecclesiastes 4:9–10 reminds us that “two are better than one… if either of them falls down, one can help the other up.” Look for friends, mentors, or groups where you feel understood and celebrated. You don’t have to carry the journey of identity alone.

6. Take Pride in How God Made You

• Psalm 139:14 declares, “I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made.” Whether it’s your skin tone, your curls, your accent, or your name—own it. These aren’t random features; they’re intentional design choices by a loving Creator.

Closing Reflection

As I think back to Monday’s school drop-off, I whispered a prayer over my kids: Lord, help them to walk boldly in who You created them to be. May they carry their cultures as a gift, and may they be a light that brings people together instead of apart. 

Raising inter-racial children is a journey of grace, learning, and joy. And in God’s hands, it is a journey that can shape the next generation of peacemakers, bridgebuilders, and kingdom-minded leaders. I hope you can pray similar prayers over your kids (interracial or not).

If you’re raising inter-racial kids, or you are an interracial kid yourself, you’re not alone. Each family’s journey is unique, but together we can learn from one another. What are the practices, traditions, or lessons that have helped your children embrace both sides of their identity? What tips do you have for nurturing belonging in a world that often pressures kids to “choose one side”?

We’d love to hear your stories/thoughts. Comment below and share your thoughts and experiences with other parents.

The Cultural Luggage We Bring: Navigating Difference with Grace

Photo Courtesy of Joe and Kim Parciasepe (2011)

“Bear with one another and forgive one another...” — Colossians 3:13

The Roots of Our Expectations

Every couple steps into marriage with “invisible suitcases” packed long before they met each other. These are filled with the traditions, values, and unspoken rules learned from our families, cultures, and faith communities. Some of these items are beautiful (cherished rituals, time-honored wisdom, deep convictions about love and commitment). Others may be heavy (rigid gender expectations, conflict-avoidance habits, or unexamined assumptions about how relationships should function).

For example, someone raised in a collectivist culture may see marriage as the joining of two families, where community consensus is vital. Meanwhile, a partner from a more individualistic background may prioritize the couple’s independence and privacy. These differences are not wrong, they’re simply rooted in different soil.

Our faith traditions also shape our expectations. Scripture, sermons, prayers, and religious community norms may inform beliefs about headship, submission, parenting, and decision-making. Without awareness, these beliefs can collide rather than complement. Recognizing that our view of “normal” is really “familiar” helps us approach differences with curiosity instead of judgment.

The healthiest couples learn to identify the contents of their luggage by talking openly about which values they want to keep, which they need to adjust, and which they might choose to leave behind.

The Current Landscape

Cross-cultural and interracial relationships are no longer the outlier they once were, they are part of the modern love landscape. According to recent projections, nearly 1 in 3 new marriages in the U.S. in 2025 will be interracial or intercultural. Social attitudes have grown more accepting overall, but couples still navigate unique challenges, from microaggressions to misunderstandings from friends or family.

The most notable trends shaping these relationships today include:

• Growing Representation in Media – Films, TV shows, and social media influencers are telling more authentic cross-cultural love stories, helping normalize difference and inspiring new conversations about identity and partnership.

• Rise of Supportive Communities – Online forums, coaching programs, and local meetups for interracial and cross-cultural couples have exploded, offering safe spaces to discuss cultural clashes, in-laws, and raising bicultural children.

• “Gentle Partnering” as a Relational Trend – Borrowing from the concept of gentle parenting, more couples are intentionally practicing kindness, emotional regulation, and respectful conflict resolution, aligning perfectly with biblical principles like Colossians 3:13.

• Digital Tools for Communication – Apps that help couples track and discuss shared goals, cultural holidays, or language learning are bridging gaps and fostering understanding.

While the challenges remain real, the opportunities to thrive are greater than ever. By embracing the current resources and communities available, couples can feel less isolated and more empowered to build a relationship that honors both cultures.

Tools for Healthy Cross-Cultural Communication

1. Cultivate Cultural Competence – Grow mindfulness, flexibility, and empathy by intentionally learning about each other’s cultural lens.

2. Learn Key Communication Skills – Practice active listening, patience, and awareness of both verbal and non-verbal cues.

3. Have Honest, Intentional Conversations – Share cultural expectations openly and clarify meaning when misunderstandings arise.

4. Build Trust Through Consistency – Let reliability, transparency, and grace create a secure foundation.

5. Practice Gentle Partnering – Handle conflict with kindness and emotional restraint.

6. Find or Create Community – Connect with couples and networks that affirm your journey.

Free Download: 10 Questions Interracial Couples Should Ask Each Other

Closing Thoughts

Our cultural, familial, and faith “luggage” frames how we see love but grace invites us to unpack those expectations together. By choosing transparency, empathy, and forgiveness, couples can transform difference into deeper connection and shared identity. As Colossians 3:13 reminds us, “Bear with one another and forgive one another…” not because it’s easy, but because it’s the way to love well across every border.

Reflective Moment & Prayer

Take a moment today to reflect:

• Which “items” in your cultural luggage have been a blessing to your relationship?

• Which has caused tension?

• What might God be inviting you to keep, release, or reshape?

Prayer:
Lord, thank You for the beauty of diversity and the richness it brings to our relationships. Teach us to see each other through eyes of grace, to listen with humility, and to forgive quickly when we stumble. Help us honor one another’s stories, traditions, and faith, weaving them together into a love that reflects Your Kingdom. May our marriages be living testimonies that difference, when navigated with grace, deepens love rather than divides it. Amen.

Facing the Critics – When Love Challenges Community Norms

Perfect love drives out fear. – 1 John 4:18
Gotta disagree with Pat Benatar, but Love was never meant to be a battlefield. Unfortunately though, for many couples in interracial relationships, it can feel like one. Not because of the love they share for each other, but because of the pushback they receive from the people around them.

Family members raise eyebrows. Friends question motives. Church communities, though well-meaning, may offer advice that’s more rooted in culture than Christ. Suddenly, a relationship that feels natural to the couple becomes controversial to others. And it hurts.

So what do you do when your love challenges the norms of your community? How do you remain rooted in your relationship while navigating cultural tension, subtle resistance, or even outright rejection?

Let’s talk about it.

The Invisible Weight of Expectations

Every culture—whether ethnic, national, or religious—carries its own unspoken expectations around relationships. Who you marry, how you raise your kids, what language you speak at home, how your family is “represented” to the world… all of these can become pressure points when love crosses cultural lines.

Even when people don’t say it outright, you feel it:

• The aunt who suddenly stops calling.

• The pastor who subtly preaches about “equally yoked” marriages with a culturally skewed lens.

• The friend who jokes about your kids “not knowing where they belong.”

These aren’t always overt acts of racism or rejection. Sometimes they’re microaggressions—those small, cutting comments that reveal underlying discomfort or bias. Other times, they’re wrapped in “concern,” cloaked in spiritual language that actually misrepresents God’s heart.

But here's the truth: God never designed love to be filtered by cultural boundaries. He designed it to reflect His kingdom—one that includes every nation, tribe, people, and tongue (Revelation 7:9).

Theological Misconceptions That Hurt

Some pushback comes from a theological misunderstanding rather than outright prejudice. Well-meaning believers may quote verses out of context, assuming that interracial marriage is a violation of biblical principles. But let’s be clear:

• The Bible does not forbid interracial marriage.

• It does caution against being unequally yoked spiritually (2 Corinthians 6:14)—not racially or culturally.

• God’s concern was always about faithfulness, not ethnicity.

Think of Moses, whose Cushite wife drew criticism from his own siblings (Numbers 12:1–10). God responded by defending Moses, not the critics. Or consider the genealogy of Jesus—one that includes Ruth (a Moabite) and Rahab (a Canaanite), both non-Israelite women grafted into the lineage of the Messiah.

When Scripture is properly interpreted, it reveals a God who welcomes unity in diversity, not uniformity in culture.

When Culture and Conviction Collide

It’s one thing to face external criticism. It’s another to wrestle internally when your culture and your conviction seem to pull in different directions.

You might love your culture. You honor your heritage. But you’ve also fallen in love with someone who doesn't fit your community's “norms.” Now you’re left wondering if you’re betraying your people… or betraying yourself if you walk away.

This is where discernment and spiritual maturity come in.

• Pray honestly. God is not afraid of your questions.

• Seek wise counsel. Find mentors who understand both cultural complexity and biblical clarity.

• Check your heart. Make sure your relationship is grounded in love, mutual respect, and shared vision—not rebellion or fear.

And above all, remember this: Obedience to God doesn’t always look like conformity to culture.

A Word to the Church

Churches have a sacred opportunity to either build bridges or deepen divides.

If we claim to reflect the kingdom of God, we must also reflect its diversity—not just on mission trips or outreach photos, but in the marriages we bless, the leadership we raise, and the families we support.

To the pastors, elders, and ministry leaders reading this: be careful not to project your personal discomfort as divine discernment. Examine your own cultural lenses. Listen to the lived experiences of interracial couples in your congregation. And commit to being a safe space where love is measured by covenant, not color.

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Personal Testimony:

Before I met my beautiful, amazing wife, I was in a relationship with a white woman who was a born-again Christian from a loving, faith-filled family. We shared the same values and deep respect for each other, but when her family found out, they told her that our relationship went against God’s design. They pointed to the Tower of Babel as their reasoning—claiming it was proof that God didn’t want cultures to mix. When she ended the relationship, I was devastated and confused. As an African man dating a white Christian woman, I struggled to understand why something that felt honoring to God would be rejected on cultural grounds.

But I’m so grateful for my father, who helped me see the truth. He explained that the Tower of Babel wasn’t about God dividing people out of punishment—it was about God preserving diversity and humility. It wasn’t a curse; it was a redirection. That moment changed how I understood God’s heart for all nations, and it freed me from shame and confusion. Looking back now, I can see how even that painful experience was part of the journey that led me to the woman God had truly prepared for me.

Final Word: Love That Drives Out Fear

Criticism will come. Sometimes from those you love most. But fear doesn’t have to win.
When your relationship is grounded in Christ, shaped by mutual love, and committed to reconciliation—not just between two people, but across families and cultures—you become more than a couple. You become a living testimony.

And in a world still divided by skin color, tradition, and bias, that kind of love shines brightly.

So keep loving. Keep growing. Keep challenging the norms—with truth, tenderness, and the courage to choose unity over comfort.

“There is no fear in love. But perfect love drives out fear…” – 1 John 4:18